Monday, November 9, 2009

A bit of research...

Our small group is doing a marriage series based on the book Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.

This week Aron & I are up to lead. So we need a bit of our wise friends & family's input.
Here's the question (depending on your gender):

*Ladies, what does your guy do that makes you feel most loved?
*Gentlemen, what does your lady do that makes you feel most respected?

You can leave your comments anonymously or even shoot us an email if you'd like.
Thanks so much for helping out!
ejk

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

I feel loved when my husband reaches for my hand to hold it or just listens when I need to talk.

Anonymous said...

When he leaves me mirror messages and little notes, when he reaches over to hug me. When he takes leadership in the relationship - asking me good questions, making decisions, taking over things he knows are overwhelming to me. When he tells me I'm beautiful when I don't feel beautiful or even when I do.

Anonymous said...

I feel most respected when she lets me make the final call on major decisions. Also if she is upset about our income, housing, my job, etc., it makes me feel inadequate, so when she is content with our "life situation" I feel respected. It energizes me to know that if she only had me, then she would be content.

Unknown said...

phone calls and texts throughout the day...just because. a long hug followed by a kiss in the middle of the kitchen. holding hands while driving in the car. a footrub at the end of the day when i know he is really too tired to do anything. spreading my blanket out for me at night, making my side of the bed "cozy" just the way I like it. bathing the kids, doing laundry, cleaning the toilets when he knows i am too spent and could use the extra help. urging me to go out by myself for a little bit to get refreshed. proudly introducing me, as his wife, to strangers/coworkers, etc. carving out time for "us"...initiating the plans and arranging the details. telling me i'm beautiful...when i'm in my pj's, all gussied up or even after a sweaty workout. putting me and our family first above work and above his own needs. listening and validating my feelings when i just need to vent. taking time for me to do this and making me feel important and #1among his long daily "to-do" list. providing and taking care of us daily without complaint.

there's many more ways...but these were just a few that initially came to me. :) wow! i certainly feel loved right now just thinking about all of these things!

Anonymous said...

When he listens to my heart and acknowledges my feelings, that he loves and accepts me for who I am, when he tells me I am his "best friend"